Sister Hosai Mojaddidi is the co-founder of MH4M (Mental Health 4 Muslims). She has been actively involved with the Muslim community in the San Francisco Bay Area and the southern California community for nearly 15 years. Working for several non-profit organizations in various capacities as well as a Qur’an teacher and lecturer over the years, has afforded her the wonderful opportunity to meet thousands of Muslims from different backgrounds and in the process develop many deep and lasting relationships both personally and professionally. She has also been able to gauge the mental health issues of the larger community firsthand by serving as a private mediator, advisor and mentor to many. She started MH4M with Dr. Nafisa Sekandari because she is passionate about providing a unique and tailored approach to mental health support and recognizes the desperate need for such a service in the Muslim community.
Sister Hosai is also the Co-host of “Insights: Muslim Women Unscripted” which airs live every Monday from 5-6 PM on www.onelegacyradio.com.
Sister Hosai can be reached at Hosai@mentalhealth4muslims.com
Salam, I’ve been suffering from depression for 5 years and its getting worser.please can u help me.jazakallah
Asalaamu alaikum,
I am having a very hard time. I’m a relatively new Muslim, having taken shahadah about 1 1/2 years ago. I married a Muslim man who I met many months after reverting. He basically took advantage of me. Now he won’t say he divorces me. We are only Islamically married, not legally. But I’m having a hard time getting a divorce done since he won’t answer calls or anything.
Honestly, I hate my life and really just want to die but I dont want to leave my young son. I may leave Islam because it has caused me hardships. I can only marry Muslims and I won’t lie and say I’m divorced if I’m Islamically married. I really need help. I need a Muslim therapist. I live in the Walnut Creek, CA area.
Salaam Alaikum Faizan,
You sound like you are in crisis and should not be left alone. Please have phone numbers ready to call in case you are about to try again with the suicide attempt. Do you live in the United States? If so, please call the suicide hotline at http://suicidehotlines.com/ If you are outside the United States, find out what is available for suicide prevention. There is help for depression and you can feel like yourself with help and medication. Please contact a mental health professional in your community as soon as possible! This cannot wait since you are in so much pain. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. With help, you can move on with your life and get over you relationship and inshAllah over time you will find love again. Although it seems hope is a bleak concept right now, it does exist and with help you will get to realize this. You can contact the police department if you need assistance right away. I pray this passes for you and you are back to feeling hope again. Please contact us if you need further assistance. — Dr. Sekandari
PLEASE somebody help me. I’m losing my mind. Yesterday I tried to take my own life. I feel like I will try again soon.
I have suffered with depression for most of my life. it comes for a few montsh, then goes with medication, and time.
I have been severely depressed continuoulsy for 15 months after my relationship broke down and my friend stepped in and started a relationship with my partner.
I have been in severe emotional trauma ever since and frequently it makes me suicidal.
I am isolated where I live and am away from friends and family.
I feel like I am living in hell every day of my life.
I’ve been praying to Allah more than any time in my life and now I feel like I have lost my senses. I do not want to live.
Yesterday was the first serious attempt at suicide in about 20 years.
I feel like I will try again soon.
PLease please someone help me. PLease.
Walaikum Salaam Faisal. Sorry for the late reply. Sister Hosai is currently on maternity leave. I’m not sure if she’s had a chance to answer your post personally but she definitely will get a chance to address your question in the near future inshAllah. In the meantime, please see if you can contact a mental health professional in the Saudi Arabia area and begin to address your past abuse and trauma. There’s no easy fix but you must work on your issues, feeling, and pain over time. You can read books about how to move on but the only way to heal your own pain is to talk about it, journal it, begin to understand and make sense of it, and then over time accept it, forgive the perpetrators and move forward with your life. 9 years of trauma cannot be erased by one session or an e-mail conversation. Please let us know if there’s any way we can further support you. You can e-mail us at info@mentalhealth4muslims.com. Take care. Nafisa Sekandari
aslamualikum sister,,
i am from pakistan currently living in jeddah(saudi arabia) and ms Myriam Francois-Cerrah suggested me to contact .i am 28 yr old and i was child aduse for almost 9 yrs..i would appreciate your support ..jazakallah khair and may allah bless u
Salam Alakum, I am a convert of 5 almost 6 years, since converting, my life turned upside down, I know now ALLAH test us and shayton trys to push you away from islam. However, I have had some tramatic things happen and have been very sick from things happening. First lost my children by way of fraud- my nonmuslim parents tricked me into temp custody when I first converted – at that time first started college, I have tried fighting to end it but ran out of money, then they stop letting me talk or see them, they threatn me to put me in jail or a mental clinic ( which now is making me sick) Second the discrimination you face from the workplace has caused my nerves to be really messed up- I have panic attacks when I go for an interview, I get dizzy, my head hurts, everything starts not making sense and I cant even talk right, when discrimination happens I get really really sick, even chest pains so bad it feels like a semi truck on my chest! Third, when I try to get help they give me all kinds of crazy diagnosis, they ask about my hijab and why i changed my religion, When i try to do anything, seek help from attornies, or other resources I get treated poorly, and I started to feel so angry at times, And then super depressed, like I am in a box, I now wont leave my house anymore, and I am scared to answer the phone, and even I have nightmares of being killed-shot in an icecream parlor in my colorful hijab, i dream of my parents trying to trick me to giving my (new) children to them to babysit, I have dreams them chasing me trying to kill me, I cant think to even look for a job with out getting sick, I even thought of leaving the country to get asylum other places- to muslm country. What I been diagnosed was- borderline personality disorder- because i get angry, and then I did try to kill myself one time- I was put in the lock down in the hostpital- and they said i have manic depression. I dont think so but they insist I do have it. I dont like the medicine I think it is not good for me. I been trying to find a muslim doctor, i dont have a job and I did file for social security, but I feel desperate really! Stafrela, I do make dua but I am hurting so bad. can you please help me!
Ws Nabila,
Dr. Nafisa Sekandari is the Co-Founder of MH4M and she is a therapist practicing in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can find out more information about her at: http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/blog/?page_id=454
Sincerely,
Hosai
assalamu alaikum
i am looking for a female muslim therapist.please get in touch with me.thank you
I can forward your information to a friend who works in the mental health field in NY. Hopefully she will be able to find you a referral. I’ll get back to you i.A.
I am a muslim man who is trying to find a psychotherapist in New York I live in Queens. I would like to see someone as soon as possible because previous therapists have been white christains who don’t understand us and told me to assimilate. they fear what they don’t understan they argue with me I don’t argue back they are fools. I have been receiving SSI for thirty years and very often been mocked and laughed when I express my requests. They mock my religion. I’m married and my wife’s therapist will not have sessions with me because I’m not Asian(!)