Child Abuse & the Muslim Community

Child abuse is the dirty little secret no one wants to talk about yet in many homes across the world, it’s as prevalent today as it was centuries ago.  According to www.childhelp.org, “Over 3 million reports of child abuse are made every year in the United States; however, those reports can include multiple children. In […]

Anger Management

“Anger is the energy that people use in order to act.  But when you are angry, you are not lucid, and you might do wrong things” ~Thich Nhat Hanh. Dr. Nafisa Sekandari and Sr. Hosai Mojaddidi Anger, as an emotion, is a primary, natural, and mature emotion experienced by all humans at times, and has […]

A Mother’s Reflection of Grief & Loss in Islam

“Whoever finds love beneath hurt and grief disappears into emptiness with a thousand new disguises.” Rumi Guest Post: Majidah (Margaret) Comparetta In 1999 I embraced Islam. The journey to Islam was long and experiential. I became involved with Westernized Sufism prior to Islam for many years, studying various methods to work on myself and dabbling […]

Mirror Mirror on the Wall…

  For victims of other forms of abuse, one way to begin the healing process on your own is by evaluating the standards with which you judge yourself. Ask yourself, “Whose ideal of me am I trying to live up to?” “Who defines me?” “Who knows me better than I know myself?” It’s also important […]

Irrational Fears and OCD in Children

  On Friday, May 23, 2014, ABC’s 20/20 presented a very informative and realistic view of how Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) impacts the lives of children and their families. These children were followed over a 5 year period and their journey towards managing their OCD is documented from extreme fear to management. According to the […]

Handling a Break-Up with Dignity

“Once you divorce women, and they have reached the end of their waiting period, then either retain them in all decency or part from them decently. Do not retain them just to act mean with them; anyone who does that merely hurts himself” (Quran 2:231). The “Highs” & Lows of Love “Love is of all […]

6 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who is Divorced

By Amal Killawi and Zarinah Nadir Divorce is never easy. But it’s the reality for 50% of American couples and 31% of American Muslim couples.  With these statistics, you’re likely to have friends or know people in your community who have been divorced or are currently experiencing a divorce. Divorce is often a time of […]

10 Steps to Overcoming Envy

Dr. Nafisa Sekandari and Sr. Hosai Mojaddidi Abu Huraryah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When one of you sees someone who has been blessed more than him in money or appearance, then let him look at someone lesser than him, whom he has been preferred over.” (Bukhari)  What is Envy? […]

Is Your Child ODD? Understanding Oppositional Defiance Disorder

“For many people, one of the most frustrating aspects of life is not being able to understand other people’s behavior.” All children, especially when tired, hungry, stressed or upset, can act oppositional from time to time.  This oppositional behavior might include arguing, talking back, disobeying, and defying their parents, teachers, and other adults.  Oppositional behavior […]