By Amal Killawi and Zarinah Nadir Divorce is never easy. But it’s the reality for 50% of American couples and 31% of American Muslim couples. With these statistics, you’re likely to have friends or know people in your community who have been divorced or are currently experiencing a divorce. Divorce is often...
“Once you divorce women, and they have reached the end of their waiting period, then either retain them in all decency or part from them decently. Do not retain them just to act mean with them; anyone who does that merely hurts himself” (Quran 2:231). The “Highs” & Lows of Love “Love is of...
“If the numbers we see in domestic violence were applied to terrorism or gang violence, the entire country would be up in arms, and it would be the lead story on the news every night.” – Mark Green The amount of abuse that happens in Muslim households today has increased dramatically. It is an...
In no particular order of precedence, the following list includes observations I have made in over ten years of helping couples with their relationships. Please take each item on the list with deep consideration and thought and do not jump to conclusions on the sole basis of what you read below; no one knows...
When it comes to selecting a partner for marriage the first and most obvious step is to know what you want. Unfortunately, most people today don’t really know what that is. That’s not to say they don’t have an ideal, because let’s face it, most of us do. We live in a society that...
“The expense of spirit in a waste of shame is lust in action” – Shakespeare There are approximately 4.2 million pornographic websites (roughly 12 %) on the internet today. Every second 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography. 47% percent of families have said that pornography is a problem in their home. In 2003, inappropriate...
Adultery is perhaps one of the most, if not the most, divisive and wretched of human behaviors. In Islam it is the ultimate form of betrayal and is so condemned that God says in the Qur’an, “And do not approach adultery, for verily it is a great sin and an evil way,” (17:32) and...
That may sound like a line straight out of a bad alien/sci-fi movie starring Dr. Phil, but it’s not. It’s the cry of many helpless couples in the Muslim community whose relationships have been hijacked and are on the verge of collapse. Much to the chagrin of hopeless romantics everywhere, the truth is that...
There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility. One of the biggest mistakes...
For Muslims there is no better example or precedent of an ideal husband than the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). He was the most loving, kind, humble, merciful, compassionate, loyal, trust-worthy, and generous husband to ever have existed; indeed his example in every facet of life is perfect and the list of his...
